First kiss, first day on the job, and first trips abroad to name a few firsts are when hopes are high. It’s when we are most present, alert, attentive, and receptive to the moment.
Beginnings are exhilarating. They inspire curiosity, bravery, and vigorous action. Everything is much more visceral. Opinions are slightly subdued and embracing the now is much more accepted, appreciated, and necessary. However, every exciting new beginning comes to end. But does it have to?
When we go to the movies, we have preferences for the type of flicks we plan to watch. We walk into a movie theater expecting Hollywood to take us on an emotional roller coaster.
Some like the thrill and gut-wrenching adrenaline of horror, others prefer the tear-jerking emotions that come from drama. Some like the abdominal pain-inducing laughter that comes from a comedy, while others escape into the realm of fantasy with sci-fi.
Since the birth of consciousness, we have possessed the innate desire to understand the world around us. When food, shelter, and warmth were no longer a dire necessity, we have wondered and pondered at the most primordial question. Why?
When I turned 30, I did not know what to make of it. Lots have asked me, how did it feel? To be honest, it didn’t feel any different biologically than turning 21. Well, that isn’t entirely true. I can’t jump as high, run as fast, or eat as much but I have become wiser. Instead of jumping high or running fast, I have opted for practices like yoga or meditation. Instead of eating lots of unhealthy food, I have opted for more greens and pasture-raised meats. I wish I knew about these things when I was younger but I’ve learned you can’t look at life that way. What we go through is a catalyst for something better. Through mediums like this blog, I am able to share what has worked for me, and maybe it can work for you.
We all want happiness, that’s a given. Perhaps it’s why we are on the constant search for it. Whether it’s food, sex, drugs, travel, money, peace, or love, we are wired to feed the pleasure centers in our brain.
““Forgiveness is the fragrance the violet sheds on the heel that has crushed it.’” – Mark Twain
When I first heard this beautiful quote my heart skipped a beat, goosebumps arose throughout my body, and my eyes began to tear up. Twain tells us that even when the heel of a foot crushes the violet flower, it still permeates its sweet fragrance.
5:45 am and I am up as the alarm sings tunes from the king of pop (aka Michael Jackson). I grew up during a time where his music prowess was unprecedented, flawless, and life giving. I decided to stay in bed for another 5–10 minutes and opened the window next to me. The sun comes out earlier in the months of April so it doesn’t seem like I’m up that early, but the beautiful chirping melodies from the many birds accompanied with the silence of the city, is a reminder that I am. After a few minutes of being utterly transfixed and inspired by the new day, I started my daily routine of rituals.
“’The more you make your thoughts (beliefs) into your identity, the more cut off you are from the spiritual dimension with yourself.’” – Eckhart Tolle
As I sit under a tree amongst many in Golden Gate Park, I venture into my backpack and grab a few fruits I packed. I took out an apple and started eating it. As I got to the core I was graced by many seeds. I picked out a single seed and attempted to break it to see what’s inside. I found nothing.